I am purely musing here, with some biblical references, so please walk with me for a bit. God wants us to have a heart of flesh, a heart that is not stoney, but malleable. And it seems simple, but it's not at all. Especially in relationships, especially when you've been hurt deeply.
So what do you do? I suppose we endure right? God always means us well, even when we can't see it or feel it. The rain of life would make us flee, but in life and in relationships, you can't be afraid to get wet.
